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Would You Say Hugs and Chores Are the Way to Make a Child Hardworking?
What makes a child and teen hardworking?
Is it unconditional love shown to him/her and also chores and high expectations for good grades and good job on homework?
From my observation of one family, that seems to be key. However, in this family the children scored low on a standardized test that most others in the class did well on, and the high scorers (just about everybody) was published in the paper. The family reacted by having the kids work really hard for a year, and I think it was their love for their parents that made them work hard to achieve all kinds of awards after that. I suspect there is a scar from that experience that has made them never want to fail (or not be awarded) again, and so they have become very high achievers.
Is this desirable? Oh, sure, now you are hardworking, but what happens at age 30? Burnout? Do you ever get over that kind of crushing blow to ego when you score so low & no one else does? And you feel embarrassed for your parents, who you love?
hug a day
Tags: Unconditional Love, Parents, Chores, Good Job, High Expectations
In my opinion making a child a hard worker involves:
-starting young. But if you didn’t it is never too late to start.
-making the chore fun (Do it with the child at first and only praise. As the child gets older you can expect more and more perfection. They will make a mess and may try to “help” when you aren’t wanting them too, but try not to get upset. They are just trying to be helpful and make you happy.
-be a good example of a hard worker. Kids will model what they see. When you finish a task, say how happy it makes you feel that you accomplished that chore and how much better the house feels and such.
Children need to have chores starting at a very young age. They also need to get some type of reward for doing those chores. Now about that published report and the kids working hard, I’m wondering why they did not work hard before. I agree that they feel that they are now afraid to fail. The fact is that everyone fails at something. Parents are much more forgiving than others, but we all have a pretty short memory. Something like that event could have quite an impact on a child, but if the parents talk to them and let them know that they will always be loved, no matter how high or low they score, that could make a big difference!