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How Do You Feel About Daycare Workers Giving Hugs and Kisses?
Michelle asked:
And if your child goes to daycare - do the workers there give the kids hugs and kisses?
And if your child goes to daycare - do the workers there give the kids hugs and kisses?
I have wondered this for several weeks since I saw another question on the subject. ... I see the workers where my child goes giving the kids hugs and kisses (on top of the head or occasionally on the cheek) and honestly - it puts me at ease to see that they have such a close bond.
At the same time - I can totally understand if some parents are uncomfortable with their kid being kissed.
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Tags: Hugs And Kisses, Cheek, Parents, Hugs Kisses
I wouldn’t mind hugs…but no kisses.
idk i would not give hugs and kisses
I see nothing wrong with it. You grow attached to people that you spend every day with, especially children. Nothing wrong with showing a little affection.
I would be fine with hugs. Not with kisses. I can not explain my reason but for me kisses are just too personal. I hug my friends and the people I love. I don’t kiss them all.
I taught 3 yr olds and I cannot imagine NOT being able to do this w/them.
They usually initiate this type of affection, and it is totally natural and in no way lurid. I agree that a parent should feel glad that their child feels that comfortable in their daycare situation…My son cried everyday for 3 mos. at his.
I think its fine. There is nothing wrong with that in my books.
In my opinion I think that hugging is totally fine, but kisses are totally inappropriate.
I’d would think a parent want someone to show their child a little affection…especially if the children are attending the day care for several hours per day.
I am a former preschool teacher, and I gave the kids hugs all the time if they wanted one. I treated them as if they were my own children.
Well kids thrive on affection, so I have no problem with it, these kids form bonds with their carers
Hugs are good, I am pretty sure children need that sort of thing. Kisses? nowai.
I don’t see anything wrong with it. Just as long as the person who’s kissing my child isn’t sick, I’d be fine!
I have no issues with it – my daycare is great – the workers are all very attached to my kids – I don’t remember ever seeing a kiss but it so wouldn’t surprise or upset me,
Quite frankly I don’t understand why you would trust you child with someone that you didn’t want to give them a peck on the cheek or forehead.
If the parent feels uncomfortable with their child being kissed, I think they may feel threatened. I don’t think it is any more out of line than an aunt or uncle doing the same thing. When my youngest was going to preschool, I would see that a lot. Twenty eight years later, I married the owner of the preschool. True story!
i have no problem with it.
my kids don’t go to day care, but they do have a babysitter. she gives them baths, tucks them in, gives em hugs and kisses, tells them she loves them, and to be honest, it puts me at ease to know she gets along great with my kids and that they love and respect her back.
I’m an elementary teacher and I hug students often- when the students initiate the hugs. I don’t think I’ve ever kissed a child that wasn’t mine. I think I would want daycare providers that would hug my daughter, but maybe not kisses unless I really knew the person. But I’m not big on kisses anyway.
We once had a waitress at a Chinese buffet who kissed my daughter on the cheek. I about fell out! But every time we’ve gone to a Chinese place the staff has been all over her, so I assume it is a cultural thing.
I wouldn’t care as long as my kid is comfortable and it never goes further than a hug and a kiss on the forehead. I might say something about the cheek but not as a big deal, Something like “I feel uncomfortable when you kiss him/her on the cheek so please keep it on the forehead.”
When I worked as a preschool teachers I gave non stop hugs. I’d kiss a boo boo and I’d take kisses, but I never really gave them. You never know how parents will react to it, so I felt it was best to avoid it all together. Other teachers I worked with gave them all the time, but until you know the family and child well..I felt it was best to avoid.
It really depends on the care provider, the child, and the family and what everyone is comfortable with. It also may depend on the age of the child. I work with the two year olds who are just starting out in school, some for the first time, and one of the ways I try to get them used to being with us is to hold them and hug them when they need to be comforted. As children get to be closer to 4 and 5 years old, they may not be in much need of that kind of physical comfort. I always felt for the kids I work with, as well as my own daughter, that it was important for children to feel loved and cared for by their teachers.
I dont think id like it if they kissed them on the lips but check and head is fine and so are hugs. Growing up i had an at home sitter, that was like an aunt. Even as an adult ive visted her a few time.
As long as it doesn’t feel wrong to the child, I think it’s ok. Children know when something ‘feels’ or ‘seems’ wrong.
I think it’s really sweet! Keep in mind that the kids may not be getting that love at home. Kids need that.
I think it is nice that the provider is kind and caring. I think it would be weird for the little child to be at a place ALL day and not be hugged or kissed on the head. It would be like a “hug” vaccuum.
I would be happy as I know my kids were loved and not just a paycheck.
I would be okay with it. It shows that the caregiver actually cares for the child. When I worked with daycare, I know it sounds a little harsh, but I only gave hugs and kisses to the ones that were in my room or I had a bond with. As far as being uncomfortable, if a caregiver was tonguing or groping my child, yeah that crosses the line, but most children (at least with my age group of 1-2) would hold out their lips and expect you to kiss them, and if you didn’t, they would get upset.
Hugs are completely fine, kisses hell no. Only family kisses them. I used to hate being kissed as a kid i think they would too.
Yea, I think that is wrong and nobody should be kissing them besides the parents and family
I take hugs… every once in a while i will get the occasional kiss on the cheek or arm or hand… I will hug if the situation calls for it or when the child leaves to go home. Most of the time the kid will hug first. I love each and every one of my kids but never do i have the urge to kiss them. I once saw another teacher kiss a child… it just didn’t set well with me. I know this teacher very well and i know that she means well and wld never do any harm… but i wld never want someone that i was not close with as a parent to kiss my child. U have no idea wat that person’s life is like why wld u want thr lips on ur child? ehh idk… just my thoughts…
I’d be glad that my child is comfortable enough with them to have this kind of a bond and would probably feel safer knowing someone cares about my kids. I can see how some people would be uncomfortable, but if it were just my kids in the discussion, I wouldn’t mind. There is nothing sexual about a kiss on the cheek or the top of the head, and especially with very young children in daycare environments, how are they supposed to understand that all of the adults they see every day (ie their family) are somehow inexplicably different from the person who plays with them every day at daycare?
for me i think its ok, it shows the children they are loved and safe, and give the same effection as mom and dad do. but i can understand why not to also. when my son was in day care she would kiss his forhead and she always left a really big juicy red lip stick mark, kinda gross